In today’s social media world, we have finally realized that we need to understand our customers and part of that process involves holding conversations with the customer. Holding a conversation implies two things: talking and listening. Since we are trying to gain information about the customer’s status and needs, it would appear that we should be listening more than talking. So how do we listen effectively to a customer? Here are some keys tips to improve your listening ability:
1. Pay attention – If you really want to be a good listener, you pay attention to the person speaking. Use non-verbal cues like a smile, eye contact or a nod of the head to let the speaker know that he/she is being heard.
2. Listen for the message – This means you have to listen for facts as well as ideas , intentions and feelings. This might entail your paying attention to both the verbal and non-verbal messages along with hearing the unpleasant things that might be a part of the message.
3. Listen and hear before you evaluate – Try not to reach a premature conclusion. If you are unsure of the exact meaning question the speaker in a non-threatening way to get at the real answer and try not to give advice or counsel.
4. Playback in your own words – Try to impartially paraphrase the words of the speaker and asks if that was the intended meaning. You’ll avoid misunderstandings and misinterpretations.
5. Refrain from giving advice – You are trying to listen and learn about the customer. Don’t jump in to give unsolicited advice.
6. Don’t rebut – Try not to listen so you can formulate a rebuttal. Again, you are listening to try to find the customer’s pain points and understand the language he/she uses.
7. Listen and don’t interrupt – This may test your patience, but you need to give the customer time to formulate and express the idea on his/her mind.
8. Listen and feel – Try to understand the underlying emotions and feelings, This might mean that you also have to ’listen’ to the body language.
9. Do not try to get your message across – Remember you are listening. When you figure out what makes the customer tick and more importantly what language to use, you can craft a message that will resonate with the customer.
10. Do not just pretend to listen – If you do, you’ll surely come away from the experience without gaining any information and you will be as ignorant of your real customer as you were before the conversation started.
Remember that we now live in a customer centric world. The only way the business will have a marketing message that resonates with the customer is if that message is geared towards solving the customer pain and is in a language the customer understands. That only happens if we learn to listen to our customers and they begin to feel that they are being heard.

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